tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post8501638237112533069..comments2023-10-24T08:47:19.888-07:00Comments on Adventures of Juan Or and Mommy: Watching "Nanny 911"Alice Phuahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13855584025388823219noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-67786392407308773722010-03-28T20:15:33.091-07:002010-03-28T20:15:33.091-07:00Ya. THe granparents should just let go. It's t...Ya. THe granparents should just let go. It's the parents responsibility when it comes to discipline the child. Don't they just let it go and be supportive?Broccoli Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01248012948367502538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-86840966648129114452010-03-25T22:54:31.584-07:002010-03-25T22:54:31.584-07:00Broccoli Ginger, yup, agree. I find that disciplin...Broccoli Ginger, yup, agree. I find that disciplining my son when the in-laws are around poses very tricky situations for me. There were situations when I disciplined Juan Or my way and they started scolding me saying that he's too young so don't need to do any disciplining (that was when he was much younger but far from being a newborn). Later when he's older, they scolded me saying that's not the way to discipline him or they said,"Whole day also talk about discipline!" And see-loh, if I can tahan, I tahan. If cannot tahan, I talk back....don't care. What the in-laws don't realize is that they are indirectly teaching my son that it's OK to defy the parents' authority because he will get his grandparents' backing. And then next time when he is in his teens already and if the grandparents are gone forever, then the defying thing becomes a habit pulak and will be a big headache for hubby and me. That's why I think, ideally, when raising up children, grandparents should be out of the equation. <br /><br />mNhL, I really admire that you have great patience to tahan with them. Salute you! <br /><br />Cheeyee, hahaha...same here, I won't give face to the in-laws when it comes to upbringing my child, but again depending on the severity of the situation too.Alice Phuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13855584025388823219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-41783330646502867152010-03-25T03:07:28.183-07:002010-03-25T03:07:28.183-07:00Hey sounds like a very good show. Too bad I can...Hey sounds like a very good show. Too bad I can't watch TV program at home. <br /><br />I don't have very strict route for the kids. But since we are not staying with the parents, we do have our own way on handling the kids. Yes there are lots more work when there are kids around but we are used to it now. And yeah, it is difficult if other people in the same house are not giving support and be consistent on raising the children. Normally I won't give face (depends on the scenario too) as they are my own kids after all.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07022175527634088822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-36681499360130990132010-03-25T02:02:40.116-07:002010-03-25T02:02:40.116-07:00Thks for sharing on the show. Never know about it....Thks for sharing on the show. Never know about it. Sound nice. <br /><br />Agreed. When in-law invovled, it is very difficult. Like what you said "spoilt the relationship". But knowing have to live together for the rest of my life, I can't spoilt that relationship. Maybe got to tahan till the kids grow up.mNhLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13884723664598214588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-47249782927049953572010-03-25T01:38:13.075-07:002010-03-25T01:38:13.075-07:00True enough. very hard to get our kids discipline ...True enough. very hard to get our kids discipline when extended family members involved...... I really don't know how to handle this.. :(Broccoli Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01248012948367502538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-26190848533147209922010-03-24T22:29:47.130-07:002010-03-24T22:29:47.130-07:00Broccoli Ginger, I'm sure you will enjoy watch...Broccoli Ginger, I'm sure you will enjoy watching this show too! :-DAlice Phuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13855584025388823219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-2476238320556238452010-03-24T21:18:02.134-07:002010-03-24T21:18:02.134-07:00wow! I am impressed! Good show must watch already....wow! I am impressed! Good show must watch already.Broccoli Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01248012948367502538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-26282382815953208552010-03-24T19:49:00.646-07:002010-03-24T19:49:00.646-07:00ALice Law, thanks! Just like the saying - spare th...ALice Law, thanks! Just like the saying - spare the rod, spoil the child or spoil the rod, spare the child. I'm willing to do all I can to make sure Juan Or grows up well, is well-mannered, disciplined and all that... even if it means having to quarrel with the in-laws about how to bring him up. "Spare the relationship with in-laws, spoil the child. Spoil the relationship with in-laws, spare the child."Alice Phuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13855584025388823219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-9396024346790112162010-03-24T19:00:11.442-07:002010-03-24T19:00:11.442-07:003 thumbs up!! No matter what other ppls say or com...3 thumbs up!! No matter what other ppls say or comment about you, you are a wonderful mom that willing to sacrifice for your boy! <br /><br />Juan Or should have proud of having you!!Alice Lawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771321722368712404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-69123488705807031102010-03-24T17:38:45.524-07:002010-03-24T17:38:45.524-07:00Smallkucing, well done on your part for instilling...Smallkucing, well done on your part for instilling the good habit of clearing up Joshua's own mess as part of his routine! :-D<br /><br />Alice Law, thanks! I personally think it's also good for Juan Or in the long run that we live away from the grandparents and any other extended family member. Although it means more work on my part (wash hubby and my clothes, cook/buy own food, juggling with office work etc.), but if it's good for Juan Or's discipline/well-being, then I'm willing to do it.<br /><br />Sheoh Yan, yup, I agree on consistency too. Consistency has been one of the major issues behind all the quarrels that my hubby and I had with the in-laws.Alice Phuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13855584025388823219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-27926437876310421332010-03-24T06:41:42.171-07:002010-03-24T06:41:42.171-07:00Alice, I agree strong with you on the consistency....Alice, I agree strong with you on the consistency. I am a parent who is very strict in implementing the routine for my children. I insist on consitent schedule for meal, nap, study and play time.Yanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11047621739104949653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-54031013468767553082010-03-24T06:35:45.912-07:002010-03-24T06:35:45.912-07:00Well done Juan Or!
Yalor, I reckon it's terri...Well done Juan Or!<br /><br />Yalor, I reckon it's terribly hard to implement any parenting policy in family with multi or fragmented ideas! <br /><br />I personally have a strict route for my kids, but once in a while when MIL came, she would disrupt my schedule that had planned for the kids! For instance sleeping route, games and meals rules... luckily after she left, everything will resume to normal! :pAlice Lawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04771321722368712404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1804080762233858200.post-19573082722654119612010-03-24T05:32:51.866-07:002010-03-24T05:32:51.866-07:00Good training for Juan Or. Ya...smallkucing have b...Good training for Juan Or. Ya...smallkucing have been train since young to clean up b4 he goes to bed. I usually let him mess up the living room then before he goes to bed he will pick up everythingsmallkucinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13083310952900700638noreply@blogger.com